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Embracing Imperfection ~ Scars

There are many different posts I can make about "Embracing Imperfection" that's why I added a part to the title regarding this specific post Scars. We all can recognize what an external scar on the skin is; we've all fallen a few times and gotten a scrape that turns into a scar, in some cases the scar fades over time and in other cases they don't. But no-one really takes into account our internal scarring...why is that? Now I don't mean literally inside our body like scar tissue from a surgery, I mean our emotional scarring. The scarring that is so evidently present to us but no-one else sees it.
If you take a look at the definition of a scar (just a scar in general) it, of course goes over other details but it also says that it is the process of wound repair and that it is a natural occurrence in the healing process. Let me repeat this...it is the process of wound repair and a natural occurrence in the healing process. What is the difference in that definition of general scarring and emotional scar? If you looked up the definition of emotional scarring it states that it is the process of healing from an emotional trauma (wound). So let's take a second and discuss the difference between the "bleeding wound" of trauma and the scarring left from trauma. Looking up the definition of a {emotional} wound (the general definition being: an injury causing the skin to be cut or broken) is stated as a negative experience that causes pain on a deep psychological level. So what's the difference? The wound is what happened and the scarring is you healing from it. Simple as that. But the question is: Are you dealing with an open wound or is it a scar? I was asked this recently and it really got me thinking. Now obviously if you're dealing with a {emotional} scar you're still gonna feel pain, it doesn't mean you have healed and will not be bothered about it again. Think of it as the same as a scar you have from surgery; I have three scars from surgery I had for my endometriosis and there is one that will still every once in a while. Scarring doesn't mean you're free from the pain or the struggles, but you're healing. 

The {emotional} scars still cause me pain, I get triggered and somedays more easily that others. But want to know a little secret? I am thankful for my scars! Yes, you read that correctly! I am thankful for my scars!! Why? My scars mean I survived. I am alive, I am my own person, I have control over my life. I survived. My scars also tell a story. It shows where I have been, whats happened in my life, and shows how far I have came. And most importantly its a reminder that I can get through anything and that pushes me to keep going. I am thankful for my scars. I have learned, while it is easy to forget I admit, to embrace that imperfection. Because of my scars I see things differently, I am anxious, I am guarded and cautious in many situations but what is seen as an imperfection is a part of me and by embracing it you heal even more!! 


Healing doesn't mean the pain doesn't show up from time to time...it simply means the damage doesn't control our lives.  - Unknown 




IF you are a religious person I highly recommend you look into the song "Scars" by I Am They. There is a specific part of the song that gets to me every time and it says:

Darkest water and deepest pain

I wouldn't trade it for anything
'Cause my brokenness brought me to you
And these wounds are a story you'll use
So I'm thankful for the scars

'Cause without them I wouldn't know your heart

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