My Cinderella Story: Sharing the Glass Slipper

Loving yourself is possibly the hardest thing to do in this day and age. We are constantly seeing what we should look and act like that it becomes a disappointment in ourselves when we aren't that way. We see it through the media and we even see it through what others tell us. Everything we see in the world today clouds and influences our view of ourselves. But it's time to stop. It's time to love yourself. Self-love is a combination self-acceptance and self-awareness as well as respecting yourself and showing kindness to yourself. So why is it important to love yourself? Here is 4 reasons why I believe loving yourself is important. There are many many more than just these but these are 4 that I find very important. 1. You need to love yourself in order to accept yourself.  I live with anxiety and depression. It's super hard to maintain relationships (both friendly and romantically) with these not just because of your anxiety to the whole thing but because of their

Hey guys! I'm so sorry I have not posted lately. I'll give y'all a little update before I tell y'all my little reminder that I learned from my own situation and still try to remember everyday. So I am finally in practicum/internship! I have one year left of college and then I'm free to adult (yay...I think haha). But I've had a lot happen within the past months that has kept me quite busy. The biggest thing is I'M GETTING MARRIED! On December 15th I will no longer be Miss Kidd but Mrs. Hughes! I've been staying very busy trying to get the wedding planned as well as working on finishing up school. Now on to the important reminder....YOU determine your success, NOT your past, NOT your experiences, and NOT another person. I get that sometimes it is hard to remember that, especially on the hard days. I have days that I just want to give up but I remember that my success is determined only by me. I will only get as far in life as I allow myself. There wil

I wanna use this post to talk about/raise awareness on something extremely important and it is fitting considering March is an awareness month for it; something that affects many women worldwide. Endometriosis. So what is endometriosis? Endometriosis is a condition where tissue similar to the lining of the uterus (located inside of the uterus) is found elsewhere in the body (endometriosis.org). Endometriosis affects 1 in 10 women and yet is rarely talked about. I am one of the 1 in 10. It is estimated to affect 176 million worldwide (endometriosis.org). The most common system is severe pelvic pain/cramps. The pain is not just "severe cramps during our menstrual cycle" our cramps can and do occur at times unrelated to our cycle though it does make our cycles more painful. Endometriosis has no cure. Living with Endo is tough because most people don't understand it. One minute you can be perfectly fine and then you're hurting so bad that you can barely move and that p

Top 5 things to NOT say to a person with an anxiety disorder and 3 things you can do to help them. I'm telling y'all this on a day where I am already triggered. 5 things not to say. 1. You'll be okay      While people believe this is a good thing to say and that it will help the person in reality it doesn't and in a lot of cases, it makes it worse. One of the worst things with anxiety is the fact that you know you will be okay but you can't shut the fear down. You CAN'T. So telling the person they will be okay only makes them panic worse because they know they have no reason to freak out because they will be okay but yet they can't control it. 2. Snap out of it.    We CANT CONTROL IT. Do not tell us to snap out of it. If we could just snap out of it then we would choose to not have it!! 3.   You've not done anything to be tiered.       Dear gracious I hear this a lot. Having an anxiety disorder, especially on the days that you are triggered,

Accepting who you are is one of the hardest things for people to do. And in some instances its hard for other people to understand why and how you were able to accept what happened to you. You will not be able to succeed and become resilient if you don't accept your story. You must accept your story in order to heal and grow. Danielle Bernock made this statement "Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams can healing begin." IF you continue to ignore what happened to you then it will continue to hurt you, it will exhaust you daily and you will always want to get out. Once you accept that it happened and that no matter what you can't change you, you can finally heal. You must come to peace with what happened and accept it. People ask me all the time how I can, not only accept what happe

Today's post is going to be all about letting y'all know a little about me. Not my past, not struggles, not tips. Just simply to learn more about me. Here is 5 things you don't know about me 1. I use to be a beauty queen. I have won so many pageants (I have a case of all of the crowns and trophies). I quit after I started college.  2. I am in college to become an American Sign Language Interpreter.  3. I'm an avid reader. I love, love, love reading. I can read anything from fiction, to fantasy, to true stories. It doesn't matter, I love to read.  4. I have a HUGE love for fuzzy blankets. When my anxiety and depression starts acting up I love to take a fuzzy blanket and curl up in it. It makes me feel safe and comforted.  5. I have 5 tattoo's. My first was a tulip with the stem being the date my step-mom adopted me. My second is an infinity with the word Resilient, a feather, and some birds. My third is a cross on my wrist. My fourth is th

Happy New Year everyone!  I want to start by saying thank you all for supporting me and this blog, I could not get far without y'all. Today, in the spirit of new year, I am going to discuss new years resolutions. I have two specific ones this year! My first is my most important resolution. I want to get stronger in my Faith and in my walk with God. As a Christian I am well aware, and not afraid to admit, that I fail many times in my walk with God. I allow life to "take over" and put other things ahead of what should be first. I'm not afraid to admit that and I know that God loves me anyways. But I don't want to be lukewarm Christian. I want to be someone that when people look at me they see God in me. I want to make people want to learn about God because they see the amazing things He is doing and has done in my life. So how do I plan on doing that? First, I plan on going to church every Sunday. It's so easy to choose to sleep in than to get up and get rea