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Accept Who You Are!

Accepting who you are is one of the hardest things for people to do. And in some instances its hard for other people to understand why and how you were able to accept what happened to you.
You will not be able to succeed and become resilient if you don't accept your story. You must accept your story in order to heal and grow. Danielle Bernock made this statement "Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams can healing begin." IF you continue to ignore what happened to you then it will continue to hurt you, it will exhaust you daily and you will always want to get out. Once you accept that it happened and that no matter what you can't change you, you can finally heal. You must come to peace with what happened and accept it.
People ask me all the time how I can, not only accept what happened to me, but how can I tell people about it. People find it so hard to believe that I can accept that it happened and find it even harder that I don't mind telling people. One of the reasons I created this blog was so I can get my story out there. I want to show people that what happened doesn't define who you are. I look at what happened to me, and yes it sucks and hurts and I suffer from it, but then I look at who I am because of it. If it hadn't happened I can give you a 100% guarantee that I would not be who I am today. I would not be at Troy University, I would not have a relationship with God and I would not be engaged right now. I would be a completely different person than who I am today and I wouldn't change who I am for anything in the world. I can say that because I have accepted what happened. I can't change it no matter how much I would want to so why dwell on the fact that it happened. I always to keep a quote, by Walser Anderson, on my mind at all times. He states "Bad things do happen...How I respond to the defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most previous gift I have - life itself." Yes, what happened sucks and I struggle from it continuously but I choose to get up and continue. Accept what happened, It's hard but you can do it. There is a quote that I really like, and I cannot tell you who wrote it for the life of me, but it states "When you can tell your story and it doesn't make you cry, that's when you know you have healed." Another one that I really love is "It takes a lot of strengthen and courage to put the past behind you and stand up and say 'I will not let it define me' To push forward and create the life that you truly deserve and not focus on bad things that life handed you in the past." I am going to create a life that deserve despite what 'statistics' tell me I should be.
As hard as it is accept yourself, accept your past, and accept your story. Create the life that you deserve. Don't be afraid of what others think and don't be afraid of what happened.

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