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Success

"Your success and happiness lies in you." - Helen Keller

Let's take a look at success. What is success? How is success measured? What does it mean to succeed?
While you can find many definitions of success, the one that I stand by is that it is "the accomplishment of an aim or purpose." In other words: it is when you reach your goal. Your goals can be short term, long term, simple or complex. It is YOUR goals, what YOU want to accomplish, not what someone else wants you to accomplish. This leads into the question of how is success measured. Most people think that success is when you 'get to the top' or when you 'have money' or even when you graduate college and get a degree. Most of the time it's seen as something "high up" but what is important to remember is that your success is measured by you, it is achieving your own goal that you set for yourself no matter how big or small.

I have what I consider "big" goals that I am working on such as getting my degree and graduating and being a good wife but I'm going to be honest, some days I set small daily goals and ONLY work on those and when I complete them I have succeeded. Some days my anxiety and depression are so bad that I find it a huge success to just get up and get dressed. But even though that is something so small it is still a success!! I have completed my goal and my purpose for that day! You have to find joy in your small successes!
It's important to remember that success can also include failure, you can fail successfully. You're thinking I'm a little crazy now right? Let me explain. You can succeed based on how you handle your failure. For example, I am in my internship and I was doing some requirements for that and my mind just shuts off. It had been a really long day and my mind and body was just exhausted. But I succeeded because I took what I learned from that experience and will now have that information t help me later in life and I also didn't take it to heart. It could have devastated me and made my anxiety worse but instead I realized it is a part of life and I didn't dwell on the fact that it happened. That is a success.

Here are a few example of my short/simple goals and longer and (maybe) more complex goals.


  • Getting up and getting ready in the morning 
  • Smiling 
  • Being more positive 
  • Being more organized 
  • Not procrastinating 
  • Graduating college
  • Getting my masters 
  • Becoming an Interpreter 
  • Becoming a counselor 

IF you notice some of these are daily goals, they are continuous meaning today I may succeed and tomorrow I may not. 
I'm not saying to just set small goals and achieve those but never live your dreams. I'm saying to take time and bask in your small success and to not compare your success to others successes. One persons goal in life is to become an extraordinary surgeon and doctor and the next persons may to be a stay home mom/dad. It is all based on what YOU want. 


Remember that you measure your success, it is accomplishing YOUR goals that YOU set for yourself. They don't have to always be big successes in order for them to count, they can be as simple as getting up in the morning. YOU decide and YOU make it happen. 


"Life is made up of small pleasures. Happiness is made up of those tiny successes. The big ones come too infrequently. And if you don't collect all these tiny successes, the big ones don't really mean anything" - Norman Lear 


"Remember to recognize that small successes that you will have. Don't let the brightness of that big goal blind you to what happens on the way toward the goal." 

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