For people who have been through what I have it is easy to understand that we have a problem with trust. What makes things worse is living in a world where people don't give you reason to trust them. It is so easy for people to lie now a days, we live in a world where the internet makes it even easier. People do things and make choices based off what will please them. This is why I have a hard a time trusting. I'm going to give y'all some examples on to why people make this already hard situation even worse.
One guy I use to date was the worlds worst liar. He would lie over things that really had no point. After catching him in many lies it would be expected that I couldn't trust him and as assumed it would make me even more nervous toward trusting guys. This guy had done everything right, treated me like a princess and would've been the ideal guy...if it wasn't for the lies.
I dated this guy, we were together for over two years. This was the "perfect guy" or so I had thought. He was everything I had ever wanted: he was a good Christian guy, said the perfect things,and even made me feel important and special. I was head over heels for this guy. We had our ups and down but what couple didn't? We broke up at one point and that's when I had learned he wasn't completely what he said he was; he had done quite a bit of questionable stuff (I will not go into that because it is not my place) but when he came back to me I took him back with open arms and faced the consequences of what he had done gracefully by his side. Things were going great this time. Maybe we just needed that separation to realize what we had meant to each other... or not. He broke up with me again, I'm not going into the details of that either, but what came after is the reasons I don't trust guys. He had told me, not long after this break up, that he never really loved me and I didn't mean anything to him. Ouch. With years of being told you were his one true love, he never felt like this with anyone, that he knew that God sent us to each other, that he would never love anyone this way, he tells you that he never meant a word. I went through A LOT of crap during that time when we were back together that most girls would not have, he broke my heart again, and then even though all the stuff we have been through will deny he ever felt anything for me. This guy had wrote songs for me and said things that would make my heart melt just to look back on his Facebook and find out that the same song he "wrote for me" was the exact same he wrote to his girlfriend before me and he said those wonderful things to her also and I have no doubt he is telling his new girlfriend the same.
Here is another reason why my trust in guys are gone, this is not with one specific ex it's all of them. They haven't stuck to their word. I'm not saying all guys are like this but with me not sticking to something you said once or twice is devastating to my trust than it is for most people. IF you don't think you can do something then don't say you will! Simple as that. I understand if something occurs but with every time you promise something you back out then there is a problem. I've heard the statement "I said that because I wanted to make you happy" so many times and it irks me sooooo bad!! In the end I AIN'T HAPPY!! I can't stand when someone is unreliable, it removes my trust immediately and after three, four, five, six times it's gonna take a heck of a lot to earn that trust back that took so long to build in the first place.
Because I have such a hard time trusting I also have a hard time with friends, most of my friends don't even realize it. I second guess every little thing whether they've given me a reason or not. I end up taken little things that most people don't even notice and take it personally. I start second guessing if they are really my friends, if they mean what they say and so much more. So I typically stay to myself.
"The trust of the innocent is the liar's most useful tool."-Stephen King
"Be careful who you trust, the Devil was once an Angel."
One guy I use to date was the worlds worst liar. He would lie over things that really had no point. After catching him in many lies it would be expected that I couldn't trust him and as assumed it would make me even more nervous toward trusting guys. This guy had done everything right, treated me like a princess and would've been the ideal guy...if it wasn't for the lies.
I dated this guy, we were together for over two years. This was the "perfect guy" or so I had thought. He was everything I had ever wanted: he was a good Christian guy, said the perfect things,and even made me feel important and special. I was head over heels for this guy. We had our ups and down but what couple didn't? We broke up at one point and that's when I had learned he wasn't completely what he said he was; he had done quite a bit of questionable stuff (I will not go into that because it is not my place) but when he came back to me I took him back with open arms and faced the consequences of what he had done gracefully by his side. Things were going great this time. Maybe we just needed that separation to realize what we had meant to each other... or not. He broke up with me again, I'm not going into the details of that either, but what came after is the reasons I don't trust guys. He had told me, not long after this break up, that he never really loved me and I didn't mean anything to him. Ouch. With years of being told you were his one true love, he never felt like this with anyone, that he knew that God sent us to each other, that he would never love anyone this way, he tells you that he never meant a word. I went through A LOT of crap during that time when we were back together that most girls would not have, he broke my heart again, and then even though all the stuff we have been through will deny he ever felt anything for me. This guy had wrote songs for me and said things that would make my heart melt just to look back on his Facebook and find out that the same song he "wrote for me" was the exact same he wrote to his girlfriend before me and he said those wonderful things to her also and I have no doubt he is telling his new girlfriend the same.
Here is another reason why my trust in guys are gone, this is not with one specific ex it's all of them. They haven't stuck to their word. I'm not saying all guys are like this but with me not sticking to something you said once or twice is devastating to my trust than it is for most people. IF you don't think you can do something then don't say you will! Simple as that. I understand if something occurs but with every time you promise something you back out then there is a problem. I've heard the statement "I said that because I wanted to make you happy" so many times and it irks me sooooo bad!! In the end I AIN'T HAPPY!! I can't stand when someone is unreliable, it removes my trust immediately and after three, four, five, six times it's gonna take a heck of a lot to earn that trust back that took so long to build in the first place.
Because I have such a hard time trusting I also have a hard time with friends, most of my friends don't even realize it. I second guess every little thing whether they've given me a reason or not. I end up taken little things that most people don't even notice and take it personally. I start second guessing if they are really my friends, if they mean what they say and so much more. So I typically stay to myself.
"The trust of the innocent is the liar's most useful tool."-Stephen King
"Be careful who you trust, the Devil was once an Angel."
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